What if it’s not commitment we’re afraid of,
but what it reveals about us?

We say we want something real.

Love that lasts. A purpose that lights us up. A life that feels like our own.

But when it’s time to show up

not just dream, not just talk …we freeze.

Not because we don’t care.

But because deep down, we’re scared.

Scared we’ll choose wrong.

Scared we’ll settle.

Scared we’ll wake up one day and realize we became someone we swore we wouldn’t.

We’ve seen what staying too long can do.

We’ve seen people give their whole lives to jobs, relationships, and paths that drained them.

We grew up watching commitment break people, not build them.

So now, even when something feels right, we hesitate.

We think,

“What if this is just another version of what hurt me before?”

And just like that, we stay in limbo. Half in. Half out. Waiting for certainty that will never come.

Because commitment isn’t about being sure.

It’s about being willing.

Willing to risk.

Willing to stay when it’s uncomfortable.

Willing to believe that maybe, this time

it could turn out differently.

But that’s the scariest part.

Because commitment doesn’t just ask for your time.

It asks for you.

Your presence.

Your honesty.

Your consistency.

Your growth.

And growth? It doesn’t always feel good.

That’s why we stay in the almost.

Why we keep “figuring it out” forever.

Why we sit just close enough to the thing we want, but never quite let ourselves hold it.

Because the unknown is uncomfortable.

But sometimes, so is joy.

So is love.

So is peace,

when chaos is what we’re used to.

We don’t always fear failure.

Sometimes we fear the version of ourselves we’ve never given a chance to exist.

So no, it’s not that we don’t want love, or purpose, or healing.

We do.

But wanting something and being ready to receive it now those are two very different things.

So if you’re scared to commit…

To a person.

To a dream.

To a more honest version of yourself.

That doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It means you’re aware.

But don’t let awareness become your hiding place.

Let it be your starting line.

You’re not behind.

You’re just waking up.